Why You Shouldn't Play the Hero (Cathryn Harper)

Everyone wants to be the hero, whether at work with your colleagues or at home with your family and friends. We want to be supportive, and customer focussed, and react immediately to every need. But sometimes, being too quick to help can have some unintended consequences. Here are some reasons why not coming to the rescue may actually be the right thing to do.

You Can Get Pulled into Something Much Bigger: Everybody has done it: spoken up at a meeting, or answered an email, because you have some inside knowledge that no one knows about, that you think can help solve a problem. You mean to provide some sage advise and move on. The people involved now see you as a critical resource that may need to be intimately involved in the project, or event going forward. Unless your motivation is to take on bigger responsibilities at that fund raiser, parent meeting, or client project, thinking twice before speaking is probably a good thing.

Things Sometimes Work Themselves Out: For years my husband has worked in technology. Many times people will raise flags about project deliverables or user problems that seem to require immediate attention. I've watched as entire teams of people have galvanized themselves into action,making plans, calling in favors, only to find out that the problem has resolved itself in the intervening hours. On occasion, letting a few hours or even a day go by before responding to an issue can actually result in better use of your and everyone else's time.

Letting Others Step Up: While we may like the feeling of being indispensable, quite often there are other capable individuals involved who can resolve the problem at hand. Many times they might be the ones asking for help in the first place, because they've become complacent or dependent upon you. If you know someone has the skill set to solve the issue, let them take a shot at it first. Letting them do so will help them build confidence and give you some additional back-up when things happen in the future. And you can always step in to help, any time, if you see that they're struggling.

I'm not suggesting that you don't offer your help in situations where you think doing so may have a significant positive impact. Just take the time before reacting, to assess the situation and see if your help is truly needed, or if it's time to let someone else wear the cape.

Cathryn is a working mother of three. A self-professed health and fitness nut, Cathryn loves to research and write about health and wellness related topics. For more details please visit at http://www.cathrynharperpress.com/

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Why You Shouldn't Play the Hero (Cathryn Harper)

Everyone wants to be the hero, whether at work with your colleagues or at home with your family and friends. We want to be supportive, and customer focussed, and react immediately to every need. But sometimes, being too quick to help can have some unintended consequences. Here are some reasons why not coming to the rescue may actually be the right thing to do.

You Can Get Pulled into Something Much Bigger: Everybody has done it: spoken up at a meeting, or answered an email, because you have some inside knowledge that no one knows about, that you think can help solve a problem. You mean to provide some sage advise and move on. The people involved now see you as a critical resource that may need to be intimately involved in the project, or event going forward. Unless your motivation is to take on bigger responsibilities at that fund raiser, parent meeting, or client project, thinking twice before speaking is probably a good thing.

Things Sometimes Work Themselves Out: For years my husband has worked in technology. Many times people will raise flags about project deliverables or user problems that seem to require immediate attention. I've watched as entire teams of people have galvanized themselves into action,making plans, calling in favors, only to find out that the problem has resolved itself in the intervening hours. On occasion, letting a few hours or even a day go by before responding to an issue can actually result in better use of your and everyone else's time.

Letting Others Step Up: While we may like the feeling of being indispensable, quite often there are other capable individuals involved who can resolve the problem at hand. Many times they might be the ones asking for help in the first place, because they've become complacent or dependent upon you. If you know someone has the skill set to solve the issue, let them take a shot at it first. Letting them do so will help them build confidence and give you some additional back-up when things happen in the future. And you can always step in to help, any time, if you see that they're struggling.

I'm not suggesting that you don't offer your help in situations where you think doing so may have a significant positive impact. Just take the time before reacting, to assess the situation and see if your help is truly needed, or if it's time to let someone else wear the cape.

Cathryn is a working mother of three. A self-professed health and fitness nut, Cathryn loves to research and write about health and wellness related topics. For more details please visit at http://www.cathrynharperpress.com/

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5 Common Sense Skills Your Child Needs for College (Cathryn Harper)

Understandably, most parents put emphasis on academic achievement in preparation for successful transition of their offspring from home to college. Grades, national test scores, and a full slate of school activities are certainly things kids need to have in spades in order to be chosen by top schools, but those only open the door. Once they walk through it, diploma in one hand, acceptance letter in the other, will your kids be prepared?

I have raised two daughters and a son, and each time I looked back and wished I had given them a little more coaching on things outside the classroom. Smart and funny, they have all done well despite whatever sins of omission I committed. If I could do it over, however, here are some of the things I would work a little harder on.

First and foremost, what's their money IQ? Seriously, kids need a really good grip on balancing a checkbook and managing a credit card balance. Not understanding how these things work can derail even the brightest kids if things get out of hand. Teach your kids how to handle money. The younger, the better. Instilling good habits like using the four banks, spend, save, invest and give, will help them keep their heads above water once they are out there navigating financial water on their own.

Do they know the basics of diet and nutrition? Sure, they will likely be served meals in the dorm, or in the sorority or fraternity house, but even then there are smart choices to make. Aside from the freshman 15, as in pounds they will pick up from having almost unlimited portion sizes and dessert served at every meal, do they know what to eat? And as important, why?

Along those same lines, do they know their way around a kitchen? Can they slice an onion? Cook an egg or a bowl of non-instant oatmeal? Boil pasta? Make a grilled cheese? If not, teach them. Again, it is likely they will have their meals served to them at first, but at some point, when you are not around, they will need to know these things. Better to have done them a time or two with some guidance from you than to have them calling in a panic, or worse, from the ER.

Do they know basic first aid? Please say yes, and if not, enroll them in a Red Cross class that gives them the standard stuff about CPR, burns, cuts, etc. And send them off with a first aid kit that includes bandaids, antiseptic ointment, acetominophin/ibuprofin, first aid tape, and gauze.

Lastly, do they have a healthy amount of street sense? Do they know not to go to places on their own or not to separate from friends at parties or events? Have they been taught to watch for strangers or people who seem out of place? Remember there will be late nights at the library or classroom and something as simple as walking to a parked car by themselves can be dangerous if they are naive or don't know what signs to look out for. And finally, make sure they know how to handle an emergency, in the dorm or on the road.

Teaching your children about life on their own is just as important, if not more so, than helping them get a 4.0 GPA.

Cathryn is a working mother of three. A self-professed health and fitness nut, Cathryn loves to research and write about health and wellness related topics. Visit our website at http://www.cathrynharperpress.com/ for more info.

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Why You Shouldn't Play the Hero (Cathryn Harper)

Everyone wants to be the hero, whether at work with your colleagues or at home with your family and friends. We want to be supportive, and customer focussed, and react immediately to every need. But sometimes, being too quick to help can have some unintended consequences. Here are some reasons why not coming to the rescue may actually be the right thing to do.

You Can Get Pulled into Something Much Bigger: Everybody has done it: spoken up at a meeting, or answered an email, because you have some inside knowledge that no one knows about, that you think can help solve a problem. You mean to provide some sage advise and move on. The people involved now see you as a critical resource that may need to be intimately involved in the project, or event going forward. Unless your motivation is to take on bigger responsibilities at that fund raiser, parent meeting, or client project, thinking twice before speaking is probably a good thing.

Things Sometimes Work Themselves Out: For years my husband has worked in technology. Many times people will raise flags about project deliverables or user problems that seem to require immediate attention. I've watched as entire teams of people have galvanized themselves into action,making plans, calling in favors, only to find out that the problem has resolved itself in the intervening hours. On occasion, letting a few hours or even a day go by before responding to an issue can actually result in better use of your and everyone else's time.

Letting Others Step Up: While we may like the feeling of being indispensable, quite often there are other capable individuals involved who can resolve the problem at hand. Many times they might be the ones asking for help in the first place, because they've become complacent or dependent upon you. If you know someone has the skill set to solve the issue, let them take a shot at it first. Letting them do so will help them build confidence and give you some additional back-up when things happen in the future. And you can always step in to help, any time, if you see that they're struggling.

I'm not suggesting that you don't offer your help in situations where you think doing so may have a significant positive impact. Just take the time before reacting, to assess the situation and see if your help is truly needed, or if it's time to let someone else wear the cape.

Cathryn is a working mother of three. A self-professed health and fitness nut, Cathryn loves to research and write about health and wellness related topics. For more details please visit at http://www.cathrynharperpress.com/

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